But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea. (Matthew 18:6 kjv)
Fairly recently, two pastors local to the city that I live in were arrested and charged with sex trafficking a teenage girl. Fast forward to today, months later from the when the first arrests were made, and come to find out, a third pastor has been charged with his own alleged involvement with the same case.
Such jaw dropping news spreads fast, and so does opinions. I can only imagine what the families of the accused feel when being hit with such serious charges. I feel so sorry for those who were blindsided and also the victims. I’ve also often wondered how church members deal with the news of finding out their pastor could really be a pedophile, and/or a sex trafficker.
A lot of the time, these men involved are actually living double lives, and so their family and congregation only have seen one side of things. They have seen the side that is good – such as being an amazing preacher, a wonderful father figure, a loving husband and passionate leader in their community. For these reasons it’s hard to believe and to accept the idea that these men are just that…. MEN. They are certainly not perfect and are very capable of making the same wrong decisions and harboring the same demons as so many others are, in the world.
Trust me, there are many evil people. To think that someone you have known as perfect or good- because they have only shown themselves to you as being perfect or good – could not make one single mistake or would not choose to commit some of the most heinous crimes imaginable would be nothing but naive.
I learned this the hard way. There once was a man that I trusted with my own life. Not a pastor but whom I very much respected nonetheless – and to be honest, I never thought he could hurt anyone – let alone his own family and blood. That same person is now in Prison for murder. People can lie, and prove themselves to be totally opposite of what you thought they were. They do it all the time. It took me a long time to believe and accept the news, even when the news and authorities presented the proof in front of me, and the truth was finally realized. I found out at that moment that even those you know, you really don’t know. So, I feel like I can relate to how the families or congregations would feel hearing horrible allegations against someone that they know on a personal level.
Christians, It’s important that even though you find out your pastor is not whom you thought he was – don’t let his actions effect your christian walk and your personal relationship with God. Many people will say “And, this is why I don’t go to church”, or they will believe that there are no good spiritual leaders out there at all because of the cases that they have heard showing otherwise. Don’t let bad situations that people choose to put themselves in distance you from the Lord. Don’t ever stop praying or trusting God just because you find out that you can’t trust man and the flesh. People will come and go in your life all of the time, they will hurt us and leave us time and time again, but God’s love for you and I, is thankfully eternal.
When bad things like this happen, this is the perfect time to realize that conversation can be a healthy thing for those affected and can help the healing process. The safety of all of our children is very important and a legitimate concern. Now is not the time to defend such people and awful offenses such as these.
With my opinion stated, what do you think is the most appropriate way for someone to respond when they find out their spiritual leader is a pedophile? Is there a appropriate way?? This is an open post. Please Leave your thoughts in the comment section below, and don’t forget to like-share this article… I really want to read from you!! Thanks as always for reading!